Father's Day

So today is Father's Day,
I want to wish all the fathers that are actually in contact with their children a happy father's day.
It's funny that Mother's Day is more celebrated than Father's Day.
Have you ever wondered how the world would have been if parents shared equal responsibility?
Ever wondered what would have happened if men took the role as women?
Sorry for my banter but i didn't get to wish my dad a happy father's day.
You may be wondering why, but the reason is that I just recently started talking to him.
Don't know the whole story but i know it took him 18 years to catch up with me.
I'm 21 now, so I barely even know what he looks like. I can't even bring myself to calling him dad.
So I say one more time, Happy Father's Day to the fathers, who were actually there.


Father, don't you see
What your absence does to me?
I used to be your little girl,
Now I'm struggling to find
My place in this world

Your lack of time and affection
Has made me defective
I search for love from the wrong men,
The kind set on living in sin.

I've become so cold and indifferent
Because of your distance.
I can't give my heart to anyone,
Your lack of love have caused
My emotions to come undone.

How will I ever have a relationship
As long as I keep falling in this pit?
Am I forced to live my life alone
Because you can't pick up the phone?

Father, why can't you see
What your apathy does to me?
I hate you for making me a statistic
And for making me go ballistic.

I hope the day will finally come
When you will see what you have done
If only you had really cared
And tried to be there.

Recession: Would you date a broke guy?

This was an interesting topic that I came across and would like to share it with you all.

NEW YORK - Sean Hamilton considered stopping his search for that special someone when he lost his job in January.
With 90 per cent less income and no unemployment coming in, the 34-year-old IT professional couldn't really pay for a dinner date. And how would he explain his financial situation without coming across as a slacker?
"To speak plainly, chicks don't dig a broke guy," said the Dallas resident, now a part-time consultant.
So he came up with a strategy: "I don't bring it up."
Men have been hit much harder than women by this recession. Close to 80 per cent of the job losses since December 2007 were jobs held by men, according to economics expert Mark J. Perry, who analyzed U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics data. April unemployment was a seasonally adjusted 10 per cent for men and 7.6 per cent for women.
For some guys, unemployment is the last thing they want to reveal to a potential date. Even if men aren't expected to pay for a date, they feel pressure from women who are looking for someone who is financially stable.
"A lot of men are very careful not to say, 'I'm unemployed,"' said Pepper Schwartz, chief relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com. "They say, 'I'm working on this project. I'm taking a sabbatical from work' or 'You heard of GM declaring bankruptcy? I worked there.' They find ways to make it sound like it's not permanent."
Hamilton said when he is pressed, he says he's a consultant. He proposes cheap dates, like cooking an elegant dinner for a woman at her place.
Christie Nightingale of Premier Match, with clients in Washington, D.C., Philadelphia and New York, said an unemployed man is a harder sell. She used to be able to brag to her female clients that a man worked in hedge funds, for example.
Now she has to explain that he is a great match in other areas - looks, religion - "but, you know, he's looking for a job."
"I find that women are very accepting," she said. "Some of the women are going through it as well. They have friends that have gotten laid off. It's the times that we're in."
Colin Deeb, 25, who was let go from his computer consulting gig in November, said he has had some experiences where women "seemed a lot less interested the second I told them that I was not gainfully employed."
But that has been rare for the aspiring actor from Brooklyn, N.Y. Deeb said it helps that he is actively looking for work and going on auditions. And he's gotten creative with dates - meeting for a bike ride, grabbing coffee or finding a cheap play.
"You learn to keep things simple when you're not working as much as you would like to be," he said. "Generally women have been OK with that."
Simple has its limits, though.
Melissa Braverman, who blogs about dating, said she knows someone who was asked out on a walking date and considered it a turnoff. And in the last six months, she's noticed that men don't suggest meals. When they meet for drinks, they limit it to one hour. She believes it's so she won't order a second drink.
"The recession is almost becoming an excuse," said Braverman, 35, of New York City. "Men don't want to take the initiative, suggesting something fun that is inexpensive. It's more well, 'I can't afford to take you out for a meal, let's keep it brief.' Unfortunately, a lot of times chemistry needs time to develop."
Schwartz said unemployed men need to keep a positive attitude and show potential mates that they are stable: "'I don't have a job but I'm doing everything I can to find one. I own my own house."'
Being too cheap can be a turnoff for women like Virginia Wall, 40, who works in retail sales in Philadelphia. She doesn't believe in coffee or drinks as a first date and expects the man to pay.
If he can't afford to take her to lunch - nothing fancy, just a casual place to sit and get to know each other over a sandwich - then he probably shouldn't be dating, she said.
"He shouldn't bring someone in his life if he can barely take care of himself," she said.
Sit out of the dating game, though, and you may miss out on the love of your life.
Christopher Floyd, 39, a photographer and video producer in Albuquerque, N.M., almost stopped communicating with a woman he met on eHarmony late last year because of his financial situation. His business has decreased 65 per cent and he is trying to do a short sale on his home.
But his potential love match, Angela Sowers, 31, who works in human resources in Sacramento, Calif., persuaded him to give the relationship a shot. She flew out with friends to meet him and the two hit it off.
Floyd is moving to Sacramento next week and will live with her parents, so the two can date locally.
Sowers, who has had to foot the bill for a few plane tickets, said she isn't too worried about his lack of income. She's hoping he can get his business going in Sacramento.
"The relationship isn't based on how much money he makes," she said. "It's who he is and what's in his heart that
matters to me."
http://ca.lifestyle.yahoo.com/family-relationships/articles/dating/cp/home_family-unemployed_men_find_themselves_struggling_in_the_dating_game

Thick Chicks

I think the title says a lot for itself.
Being a typical african lady, i must say that I am quite endowed.
I am not on the big side nor am I skinny either.
It is nice having these assets but being happy with them does not work all the time for me.
For example, there are some clothes that the skinny girl can pull off that I can't.
Yet, I've learned to love the way I look and hence, below is a video for my fellow thick chicks.